Marriage is wonderful, but just like any relationship, there are challenging times.
Before the big day, it may help to discuss your new relationship with a marriage counselor.
Many couples encounter hiccups in establishing their new life together, and they may feel as though they can’t do a lot of the things that they could before they married. Adjusting to married life can be fantastic, but the couple needs to work together to tackle new challenges and grow closer.
Don’t Worry About Others’ Expectations
Your friends may assume you can’t go out and spend time with them like you used to, and family members may be expecting you to have children. Remember that you got married for the two of you and no one else. You aren’t beholden to anyone’s expectations except each other’s. If you’re planning on having children, that’s between you and your spouse. Whatever social events you do can still be done as a couple, or you each may stick to your own social circles.
Even though the title of your relationship changed, the two of you did not. You’re still the same people; you just have to approach life differently in some cases. You’re not on your own anymore, and while adjusting to the team mentality may be difficult at first, having a trustworthy, reliable partner who knows you as well as you know yourself is an extremely positive thing.
Handle Money Matters With Care
One of the most common causes of arguments between married couples is money. You may decide to pool your resources or keep your income and bills separate. Whatever the case may be, be a team. If one of you makes a mistake, being resentful or angry doesn’t make the bill disappear. Approach the problem together, and solve it together. Financial problems affect everyone, so make sure you’re honest and realistic in how you approach them.
Don’t Shy Away From Mediation
Disagreements will happen in any relationship. If you’re prepared ahead of time to seek help, then when troubling times happen, you’ll both be prepared. Having a pre-marriage counselor who knows you as a couple before the challenges of marriage may make your future together less bumpy. If you’re having problems or issues that are difficult to discuss, a pre-marriage counselor can help you iron these issues out before you say “I Do.”
DON’T WAIT UNTIL THE ‘BIG DAY’ TO PREPARE FOR A LIFETIME OF WEDDED BLISS.