Most people have a cautious view of marriage in today’s society.
Since over half of first marriages end in divorce, it’s important to fully consider your commitment before making one. Pre-marital counseling can be a great way to address any problems you may have before carrying them into a marriage. Being proactive can lay to rest any doubts or worries you may have about taking your relationship to the next level.
Do You Want to Start a Family? Do you both want children? Does one of you, but the other isn’t sure?
This is an important issue for couples on the verge of marriage. You should both know how you feel about having kids and make sure you know where your partner stands as well. Having children isn’t easy, but it’s one of the most rewarding and beautiful experiences life has to offer. Make sure you know how you both feel about the idea. Knowing that this is a deal breaker for one or the other of you should be discussed before the big day.
What are Your Professional and Lifestyle Goals?
Are you both going to continue working? Will you pool your finances or keep your money and debts separate? While the issue of one partner staying home usually only arises when children become an issue, work to understand each other’s goals and how you can work together to maintain the lifestyle you both want.
What Can I Expect from You?
Do you work well together? Or does building a table together typically erupt into an argument? You need to know how each other operates in certain situations. If you’re considering marriage, chances are you’ve spent a great deal of time together and done many things as a team—but what haven’t you done yet? Get to know what your partner can do and what you both can do together. You should also ask about the things your partner doesn’t like and the things you may enjoy that he or she doesn’t.
Pre-Marriage Counseling Has Innumerable Benefits.
It may simply be getting an unbiased opinion about the health of your relationship, or it can help you address issues before they become marital problems. Counseling can also help you discover things you didn’t think to ask and help you and your partner grow closer together before getting married.
Sources:
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Twenty-Questions-to-Ask-Before-You-Get-Married_1
http://www.bustle.com/articles/94061-7-unexpected-questions-to-ask-your-partner-before-getting-engaged-or-walking-down-the-aisle
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201109/benefits-pre-marital-counseling-successful-marriage