Before Your Bundle of Joy Arrived, You Spent Lots of Effort Baby-Proofing Your Home.
It’s easy to prepare physically, but often we forget that other areas of our lives need attention, too. Becoming a parent is a wondrous feeling, but it takes a while to become accustomed to it. The changes can echo deep within your relationship, so you need to think carefully about how to proceed.
Always Get Enough Sleep
Studies have shown that new parents deal with dangerous levels of sleep deprivation. With feedings, changings, playtime, bathing, and the standard duties of being an adult, rest and sleep often are at the bottom of your list. Unfortunately, not getting enough sleep can cause many physical side effects, in addition to irritability. Sleep-deprived spouses often unload frustration and irritability on their partners, causing the relationship to suffer.
Take Time for Both of You
There are so many other things going on when you bring a baby home, but you can’t forget to give your spouse or partner affection and attention. No matter how busy you are, schedule time to grab dinner or watch a movie together (enlisting help from your parents or close friends is handy here). The messy house and dishes will still be there later.
Remember, You’re Both Learning
If you’ve never had a child before, bringing a new baby home is uncharted territory. Chances are, your partner is nervous, worried, and excited about the experience, too. It’s crucial to give each other the benefit of the doubt and not make small mistakes big. No one is a perfect parent, and you shouldn’t expect that from one another.
Be Thankful
The smallest gestures can be profound when you’re stressed and running on fumes. No matter how insignificant the contribution is, you should show gratitude to your partner for any help given. As the old saying goes, it’s the thought that counts – especially during such a tumultuous time.
Start a New Hobby Together
Pick something (preferably not too time-consuming) and learn it together. It could be as simple as coloring or making a new dessert. Focus on a common interest and let it bring you together as a chance to bond. You’ll both experience less stress and better feelings of fulfillment. Plus, research has confirmed that sharing such an activity will help you grow closer.
Your relationship has undoubtedly changed now that you’re both parents, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Think of it as a brand new adventure to help strengthen your bond in ways you never thought possible. Be courteous, work together, and prosper.
Additional Resources:
http://www.lifescript.com/well-being/articles/b/baby-proof_your_relationship_with_7_new_parent_tips.aspx
http://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/5-relationship-hurdles-new-parents-face/